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Subject:The &%$*@ delinquent kids on my block have struck again!
Time:07:50 pm
Hubby is out of town this weekend so me and my friend J take the kids to see The Simpsons movie (which has some of the funniest lines ever in it, plus a quick slash scene between two cops, so well worth seeing *G*).  We come home and the two little boys that are always causing trouble, that don't even live on our street, and *never* have any parental supervision are out playing in our front yard.  We have lots of toys, tonka trucks, etc that the entire neighborhood plays with, so I didn't think much about it.  A few minutes later, two other neighborhood kids show up at the door...  these two we know the parents and they are allowed in the house (unlike the two boys who have cause problems in the past and are not allowed in the house.)  My kids and the other two are playing in the living room while I go into the bedroom and fold laundry.  A few minutes later, there's a knock at the door and my daughter is running back saying it's an emergency and someone needs to see me.  I go out and my fucking front yard is on fire!!!  Fortunately, the eleven-year-old next door saw it, ran inside and told her uncle, and he came out and was putting it out with our hose.  Also fortunately, it only got three of the shrubs and didn't spread to the house or the cars via the dried pine needles that are all over the desert landscaping in our yard.

So, I start asking what happened and boy #1 (who is 7) denies everything but I'm pressing him as is the neighbor and he finally admits that he and boy #2 (who is 6) were trying to light a newspaper on fire, not the bushes, but they caught on fire instead.  So I lecture him about not playing with matches, about letting someone know and not running away if something like that happens, then march him down to his parents.  On the way I ask where he got the matches in the first place.  He shows me where he got them... three houses down next to an ashtray on the front porch.  At which point I lecture him about not taking things that don't belong to him.  His mother and older brother are sitting in the garage and I tell her what happened.  She immediately starts blaming other boy and telling me her son doesn't play with matches (as she puffs on a cigarette).  We've had issues with her before.  She's the type that believes nothing is ever her or her kids fault, that they are the victims, that everyone is out to get them, and yet her kids are always in the middle of any trouble.  After I lecture her about watching her kid and that he basically confessed to doing it,  I go see boy #2 parents.  They at least have the decency to seem abashed and say they'll talk to him.  I head back home convinced that it did no good to talk to any of them.  That's when one of the neighbors says I should call the non-emergency number and just let the cops know what happened and what they think.  I do that and I'm told that an officer will call me back.

Ten minutes later, the police officer shows up at my door.  Very nice woman, but petite and wearing a bullet proof vest so she looks like she's wearing one of those fake muscle shirts like Hans and Franz used to wear on Saturday Night Live.  She tells me that in Nevada no one can "commit" a crime unless they are 8 years or older but that it would have been a Class 3 Felony.  I told her I didn't think the kids were *trying* to burn down my house but they very easily could have, or burned themselves, or one of the other kids if they had been out playing.  She goes and talks to both boys, brings boy #1 and his parents down and makes him apologize, and says she will probably go see boy #2 again as his parents were gone and he was with an uncle.  Meanwhile, all the neighbors, who, like us, *watch* our children and know where they are at any given time, are standing in my yard and we've agreed the boys won't even be allowed to play in our yards anymore.  The police officer said she'd patrol through the area tonight and over the next couple of weeks, just to make sure everything is okay.  Although I was afraid she might pass out with that vest standing out in 110 degree heat and storms moving in so it was humid, too.  So as she's fanning herself with her notebook I'm thinking, great, I guess I call 911 next and report an officer down on top of my scorched shrubbery.

And of course, this all had to happen while hubby is gone and I had to go confront the parents by myself.  I'm ready for a hard cider... maybe two.  Sigh.  Why does this shit always have to happen in my yard?
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parisindy
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Time:2007-09-04 04:03 am (UTC)
((hugs)) man sounds like the evil kids in my neighborhood ...

i so hate them!

who the hell lets a 2 year old in diapers play in the street after midnight

its a mad world!
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liketheriverrun
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Time:2007-09-04 01:16 pm (UTC)
Well boy#2 was showing up on doorsteps in only his underwear on Saturday to see if the kids in the neighborhood could play. There are 6 kids in that family, all under 12 and they just run wild, but boy#2 is by far the most out of control. And it's sad and I feel for him because he obviously doesn't get the attention he needs from his family but it really comes down to I have to put my kids first and it's a really crappy situation to be in. Thanks for hug!
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parisindy
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Time:2007-09-04 05:53 pm (UTC)
no worries i can totally relate... i don't have kids but i have that neighborhood and its not always fun or functional

we are looking to move actually

as my mom is older its not always a safe place for her to be any more

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liketheriverrun
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Time:2007-09-06 01:26 pm (UTC)
We actually love our neighborhood...lots of kids the same age range as our kids, friendly neighbors, just a few bad apples from the next block over upsetting the cart is all. Which is really too bad when something like that starts messing with a good thing.
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parisindy
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Time:2007-09-06 01:44 pm (UTC)
agreed ((hugs))
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piplover
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Time:2007-09-04 04:11 am (UTC)
Wow! That just really boggles my mind. I don't understand how any parent can just let their kids run wild. Not only were the little boys in danger of burning your house down or getting injured, but little kids dehydrate easily and they could have become sick if they weren't drinking anything and playing all day without someone to call them on it.

I'm just glad everything turned out all right for you.

Hugs!
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liketheriverrun
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Time:2007-09-04 01:20 pm (UTC)
There are times that we send them home just so they check in... Does your mom know where you are? I don't know. Well, go let her know. One mom on the street tried to send boy#1 back home one day and he tells her, no one is home. And she asks where is everbody? And he says, mom went to the store. Now, if my kids are playing at someone's house and I need to run to the grocery real quick, I've asked and they just stay and play. And other parents have done the same when their kids are with us. But at least we *ask* first. Thanks so much for the well wishes.
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liresius
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Time:2007-09-04 04:12 am (UTC)
Oh wow! That's drama. I really feel for you and am just so glad that you are all alright and that the fire didn't spread.

Of course it's not your responsibility to look out for those kids but I wonder if banning them is going to solve the problem. Maybe when things are less stressed, you could all get together and have a neighbourhood meeting with the woman - try to find a way to put your concerns in a non-confronting way. She may be more susceptible to reasoned discussion when something hasn't just gone down involving her kids. But then I don't really know what I'm talking about when I don't know her close up.

*hugs you*
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liketheriverrun
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Time:2007-09-04 01:29 pm (UTC)
Thanks so much for the hug! Believe me, we've tried with the woman. She got into it with another parent from the opposite end of our block when her son was involved with the girl falling off her bike and busting out her front tooth. Huge drama then in the neighborhood. And for some reason my hubby is known as the go to person when there is trouble like this for some reason. (He spends alot of time working on the Jeep and stuff outside so he sees alot of the stuff that happens). And the boy's parents show up at our house demanding to know if what the girl's mother said is true and no one in the neighborhood wants her son playing with them. And hubby tells her flat out, he can be a good kid but he can also cause trouble and you don't watch him or even know where he is when all the other parents on the block are out watching their kids. If you just showed yourself now and again it would make a huge difference. But nope, she never showed. We're kind of like free babysitting for her.

They were in cub scouts with our son (and hubby was the pack leader) last year and the way it was set up, each family was responsible for the activities for a month. Could do anything toward one of the badges, some parents set up go see's at various places, some did crafts, some did hikes. She complained they couldn't afford it, she didn't have time, etc. Hubby said fine, you don't have to. Then she complained about having to drive to some of the go sees. Then when they had a craft night at Home Depot (and Home Depot supplied everything) and they had a little raffle for some tools and wood craft kits at the end of the night, she complained to the manager because her son didn't get anything when other kids that weren't even in the scouts (younger siblings that came with the parents that night) did win something. She's just one of those people where nothing is her fault, and everyone is out to get her and her kids. Annoys the living crap out of me.
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liresius
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Time:2007-09-05 01:48 pm (UTC)
Oh gosh. It sounds like you have really tried and that she is just a miserable kind of person - always expecting, but never giving. I can't stand people who think they deserve a free ride from others around them without giving back.

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liketheriverrun
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Time:2007-09-06 01:27 pm (UTC)
Yesssssssss. I find myself grating my teeth every time I'm around her because I just know she's going to say something to piss me off.
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annieb1955
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Time:2007-09-04 06:04 am (UTC)
Holy crap! Sending Ronan with his Wraithstunner
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liketheriverrun
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Time:2007-09-04 01:21 pm (UTC)
LOL! Now that would be handy, except for alll the stunned children I'd have laying around... including my own. Maybe I actually need one of those Goa'uld hand devices that can throw them off my property when they start causing problems. *G*
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crownglass39
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Time:2007-09-04 11:40 am (UTC)
This kind of shit probably happens in other people's yard too, but you actually care enough to try to *teach* the children something.

The other parents will turn a blind eye and then when their child is in jail or burned they'll start with the "woe is me".

*hands you a hard cider*

*hugs*
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liketheriverrun
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Time:2007-09-04 01:35 pm (UTC)
Thanks for the virtual cider and hug *G*. You know, that's it exactly. If he had been hurt she probably would have tried to sue me. And yes, we try to teach our children (and hers) right from wrong, which is why I called the cops. I had no intention of trying to press charges, but seeing an police officer show up at your door and explain how wrong it was hopefully goes a long way.

Our son broke one of boy#1's toys last year on purpose because he was mad at him. When we found out, we made our son go buy him a new one with his own money to show that you don't break someone elses things. And hubby walked down with him and made him give it to the kid and appologize. And we were talking about it that night and both came to the conclusion boy#1 would probably just break it himself within the week but we both also felt we'd done the right thing for *our* child by showing him there are consequences to his actions, which was the whole point of it. But some parents just don't get that.
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springwoof
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Time:2007-09-05 11:07 am (UTC)
so sorry to hear it! sounds like you did the right things, though. One day those kids may set something on fire and hurt themselves or others if they're not stopped now....
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liketheriverrun
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Time:2007-09-06 01:29 pm (UTC)
Oh absolutely. Like I told the cop, I didn't call to have her come arrest anyone, but the parents obviously didn't take it seriously (boy #1 parents said he was grounded. That was 5 pm Monday, Tuesday after school he was out riding his bike up and down the street. Yeah, big punishment there **roll eyes***) I had just hoped having an authority figure tell them, hey this is bad, might help them to striaghten up a little bit.
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raz_gaiale
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Time:2007-09-05 08:36 pm (UTC)
Jeez...No wonder you're so good at coming up with crazy situations for your characters. Sounds like there's a good bit of insanity in your real life for inspiration!

I'm really glad the fire didn't hurt anybody or damage your house. Kudos to that eleven-year old and her uncle for doing the right thing.

And having known and hated people like your whiny, irresponsible neighbor, I sincerely hope karma wreaks horrific (yet non-violent) vengeance upon her.
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liketheriverrun
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Time:2007-09-06 01:31 pm (UTC)
LOL! Well as long as things don't get as harry around here as they tend to for John and Rodney in my stories, I'll be okay. *G* And yes, the girls next door are sweethearts. Thank goodness *they* live there and not one of the delinquent boys. Thanks!
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sierraindigo
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Time:2007-09-26 06:14 am (UTC)
Is it wrong that my very second thought was, hm...I wonder if you can steal the info of the cop who looks like she just might pass out from wearing all her bullet proof gear in the heat for fic fodder? I can almost hear Rodney's pointed commentary with Sheppard over which is better, being prepared and fully armed to the teeth or dying potentially of heatstroke from being fully armed to the teeth in the bazillion degree heat.

PS My first thought was...Wow, that sounds hugely frustrating. And, boy, good for you for being able to keep your calm in that situation.
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liketheriverrun
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Time:2007-09-26 01:35 pm (UTC)
By all means, feel free to steal the heatstroke concern, the poor woman looked miserable. And yes, extremely frustrating, but I spend my career dealing with people feeling they're entitled to everything immediately, so I was used to the keeping my cool. *G*
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