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Subject:My husband has left me for leather clad men
Time:01:09 pm
Here's the deal...

My dear husband and love of my life for the past 16 years has always had a thing for wearing leather.  When we met and he was 19 years old, he would wear-shin high Doc Martins, shorts to his knees, a Social D t-shirt, black leather jacket, backwards baseball cap, and black wrap around sunglasses and he was HOTTTTTT!  Muscular, blue eyes, blond hair that he wore short in the back but long on top so it curled naturally, and this sexy little gap between his front teeth.  He's a southern California native, skater boy, listened to old school punk as well as the Chili Peppers (before they sold out) and Beasty Boys and Rage Against the Machine.  He's an artist whose art talked a great deal about the portrayal of women in our society and he was often accused of being sexist in his art because of the use of scantly clad women... all of which, he liked to point out, came from the pages of the most popular "women's magazines" out there.

Two kids later, he's now teaching art at the University instead of taking the classes.  He still listens to punk and Social D and Rage was blasting in his studio last night.  His art has changed slightly but he still has the women, often now in more politically charged settings, but he has a long board that he uses to skate from his parking spot to his classes.  He wears his hair in a near buzz cut now, so no more curls to run my fingers through and he chipped his tooth so bad in a mosh pit several years back that they finally fixed it and filled in the gap.  But both kids have the gap so I can still see his old smile when they do.

But the leather... sigh.  Yes, he still has that black leather jacket that he breaks out now and again, but now more often it's full leathers, a floppy hat, moccasins, and a muzzle loader.  Yes, my sexy little skater boy has grown up into a mountain man.  And I ask myself time and time again how did this happen?  If you met him, talked to him, saw his art work, listened to his music, hell, saw the set of skull and crossbones stickers on his car, you would never in a million years think he would go off with a wicker pack on his back and snow shoes on his feet for a week at a time to go beaver trapping in the snow-covered mountains of northern Nevada.

He became interested in muzzle loading several years back when we went to visit my family in Tennessee.  My step-dad had one and he was just fascinated with it (hubby's a big gun fan, too, btw).  Not long after that, he bought one.  Then he started researching muzzle loading groups and found one locally.  Then he started going to their shoots.  Next thing I know he's buying Elk skin leathers on e-bay, *sewing* his own capote (mt. man for heavy ass wool coat made from a blanket), buying primitive camping gear, and disappearing every month of so for a long weekend to go camp out with a bunch of other guys that do the same.

This weekend is a rendezvous up in Utah, so me and the kids have left to hold down the fort while hubby goes off into the wilds with his tomahawk, bow, and throwing knife and a bunch of other men that do the same... 

I shit you not.
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sholio
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Time:2007-04-27 09:06 pm (UTC)
Sounds like you're married to a really odd blend of Ronon and Sheppard ... you poor gal. ;)

Mine is sort of an interesting combination of geek and mountain man. He's a computer science professor with a PhD, who smelts iron the old-fashioned way, owns his own bulldozer and loves scrounging for pieces of metal from Dumpsters that he can fashion into machine parts. The other day a delivery driver pulled up while he was out in the yard rearranging his piles of junk. He's a big guy with hair down to his waist, a beard and a black leather jacket. Apparently he struck up a conversation with her (the delivery person) and at one point she asked him what he did for a living. And he told her he worked at the university. "Doing what?" she asked -- probably thinking maintenance man or something. He said the look on her face was priceless when he told her that he teaches computer programming ...
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liketheriverrun
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Time:2007-04-29 02:40 am (UTC)
LOL! I never thought of it that way with a combo of Ronon and John, but I think you're right. My husband is a print maker so we have a couple of large presses in his studio (i.e. our former two car garage). Although he tends to work large, as in wood cuts on 4x8 foot pieces of plywood that he has to press on bedsheets using his CJ-7. So what the presses don't take up in space is taken up by large pieces of wood and the tools to work it. Hubby has talked about doing the iron working... he's fascinated by all that stuff... and I just shake my head.

And it's funny what you said about people being surprised by professions. A lot of the guys that do the Free Trapper stuff with him are older and retired from construction or maintenance type jobs. He's probably the youngest guy there on a regular basis that isn't a son or grandson of someone else and they call him the Professor. Heeee.
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piplover
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Time:2007-04-27 09:10 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry, but...hahahahahah! Oh, Gods, I swear men are another species! You have my...sympathies? Understanding? Condolences? Maybe you should get your own set of leathers? I hope you have a good weekend with your kids, though.
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liketheriverrun
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Time:2007-04-29 02:50 am (UTC)
Oh he would love if I joined him for this crap. Lots of the wives are part of this, too (mainly retired couples) but I have no desire to do it. Everytime I join them for some function like the Christmas party I have to bite my tongue because the men tend to have a very stereotypical view of the male/female world and I just cringe when one makes a comment about how his wife is made to spend his hard earned money or something like that. Well, I am the primary money maker in our family and he's the primary care giver for the kids so it's just a whole different world than what these people live. Also, it might have something to do with the fact I grew up in rural Tennessee and saw this backwoods stuff first hand all my life and it just doesn't appeal to me the way it does to a city boy. *G*
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ladybeth
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Time:2007-04-28 02:23 am (UTC)
That's an interesting combination:)
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liketheriverrun
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Time:2007-04-29 02:51 am (UTC)
Thank you for being so polite in your assessment of my husband's foibles *G* You're actually much better at it than I am.
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jedivett
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Time:2007-04-29 05:34 pm (UTC)
Now my other half is addicted to fishing. Would spend all day and half the night on the boat if the fish are on and he has no where else to be. Thus we have the boat in the back (we live on the water, ocean access), otherwise known as the hole in the water into which he pours money. Many a time, I have stayed with the kids while he heads off to catch whatever is in season. I used to go, but am tied down with the little ones until they get old enough to manage their own pole.

His profession? ... Hard to describe, but he basically advises the people that are producing software programs related to international trade for the US govt. Believe me, the people that he works with have never seen his outdoorsman side. lol. I sympathize with ya!
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liketheriverrun
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Time:2007-04-30 02:05 am (UTC)
Fishing I could deal with. I could go and just hang on the boat, no special clothing required. *G* But I do understand about the little ones. Actually, it's funny, because I work with a lot of government employees and the thing here is bowling. Back home that was such a... redneck sort of thing to do. But here there are executive level people that bowl on two leagues a week. It boggles me.
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